12358 #006 — How to be in Control of Your Emotions

Emotional Regulation 101: How to be in Control of Your Emotions

Today, I want to share with you some tips and tricks on How to be in Control of Your Emotions, as well as some expert insights on the Negative Impacts That Many Adults Face. From self-improvement tips to Stoic verses to think about. This email is packed with valuable information to help you navigate the ups and downs of life.

In this section, we dive into the main topic of how to be in control of your emotions. Whether it’s through understanding the science behind our feelings, learning the wisdom of ancient philosophers, or simply taking practical steps to manage our reactions, there are many ways to gain mastery over our emotions. Additionally, we will explore the negative impacts that many adults face and how to overcome them. From mental health issues to professional burnout, there are a variety of challenges that can hold us back. But with the right mindset and tools, we can overcome them.

Finally, I encourage you to share this email with your family, friends, and colleagues. The information and tips shared here are valuable for anyone looking to improve their emotional well-being and overall quality of life.

How to be in Control of Your Emotions

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You know when you feel really happy, sad, mad, or anything, right? Well, sometimes it can be hard to know what to do with those feelings. I have some tips to help you.

First, it’s good to know what makes you feel different strong emotions. Once you know them, you can start thinking of ways to take action.

Next, pay attention to how you feel and what you’re thinking at the moment. It can help you understand your emotions better and know how to respond.

Deep breathing can help you feel better when you’re feeling overwhelmed. Try breathing in for 4 seconds, holding it for 7 seconds, and breathing out for 8 seconds. Doing physical activities can also get rid of pent-up emotions. And if you find it hard to deal with your emotions, don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Remember, it’s a journey to understand and manage our emotions, but with the right tools and strategies, we can improve our ability to handle our emotions and live a happier and more balanced life.

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Now, think about these

The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way — Marcus Aurelius | Video

When you’re feeling stuck in your career, try to reframe the obstacle as an opportunity. Instead of seeing a difficult job interview as a hindrance, see it as a chance to showcase your skills and prove yourself.

  • Identify your career goals and create a plan to achieve them.
  • Seek out mentorship and guidance from successful individuals in your field.
  • Continuously learn and develop new skills to stay relevant.
  • Reflect on your values and align them with your actions and decisions.

It is not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters — Epictetus | Video

When a relationship ends, it’s easy to focus on the negative and blame yourself or the other person. Instead, try to take responsibility for your actions and use it as an opportunity to grow and learn from the experience.

  • Prioritize self-care and healthy habits to maintain physical and mental well-being.
  • Practice empathy and active listening to improve relationships.
  • Reflect on your past relationships to identify patterns and areas for growth.

If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment — Marcus Aurelius | Video

When you’re feeling stressed and overwhelmed by external circumstances, try to focus on what you can control and let go of what you can’t. Instead of dwelling on the problem, focus on finding solutions.

  • Identify your values and align them with your actions and decisions.
  • Practice mindfulness and gratitude to stay present at the moment.
  • Break down larger goals into manageable steps and take small, consistent actions toward them.
  • Surround yourself with positive influences and supportive people.
  • Learn to let go of things that don’t serve you.

Negative impacts that many adults face

The key takeaways include understanding the impact of emotional immaturity on adult children, learning how to set healthy boundaries, and discovering ways to heal from past hurt and move forward in life.

Society is accustomed to the idea that parents are supposed to be more mature than their children, but this doesn’t always prove to be true. Actually, some of the highly sensitive children become much more emotionally capable than their parents.

Let’s just say that society is right. Here are the 5 key takeaways and actionable solutions from the book that I gathered and relate to each area of our lives.

  1. One actionable solution you can take for improving your career is to focus on building self-esteem and learning assertiveness skills. This can help you to communicate effectively with others, set boundaries, and advocate for yourself in the workplace.
  2. For personal growth, it suggests working on healing past hurt and learning to let go of feelings of guilt and shame. This can involve therapy, journaling, or other forms of self-care.
  3. To improve your health, it encourages setting boundaries with emotionally immature parents and learning how to take care of yourself emotionally. This can include practicing self-compassion and learning to set limits on time spent with emotionally immature parents.
  4. For relationships, it suggests learning how to trust yourself and others, setting boundaries, and learning how to communicate effectively.
  5. Finally, for overall quality of life, it emphasizes the importance of self-care, self-compassion, and self-awareness. This can include therapy, journaling, and setting boundaries with emotionally immature parents.

“Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” by Lindsay Gibson PsyD is a self-help book that delves into the impact of growing up with emotionally immature parents and how it can affect an adult’s future.

Snippets from the experts

  • We live in a world of “I should do…” and then we don’t, and then time runs out. Whatever that thing is, please start doing it today — Justin Welsh
  • If you never question things, your life ends up being limited by other people’s imaginations. Take the time to think and dream, to question and reconsider. It is better to be limited by what you can dream for yourself than by where you fit in someone else’s dream — James Clear
  • There’s also tons of survivorship bias. Sometimes (most of the time?) people think you’re crazy, and they end up being right. But we mostly just hear the stories of the cases where someone was crazy until they were right — Sahil Bloom
  • Money isn’t the goal. Freedom is — Legacy Builder
  • Most businesses take 5 years to start being successful. Most investments take 10+ years to start compounding. Patience pays. Chasing shiny objects doesn’t — Tim Stoddart
  • Feeling bored? Let’s eat. Feeling stressed? Let’s get a drink. Just closed the big deal? Let’s celebrate by doing both. You’re training yourself to deal with emotions using food and alcohol — Dan Go
  • “I did it all by myself” isn’t always something to be proud of. It could mean you were either too ignorant or proud to ask for help along the way. You may go faster alone, but you’ll go further together — Joey Justice
  • The greatest seducers in history have been artists of life. They understood that the most important seduction of all is the one that happens inside us — Robert Greene

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By Joy de Guzman

Joy de Guzman is a freelancer and blogger who writes about productivity and self-improvement. Joy is the founder and editor of Plus63Media, a one-person media business that focuses on productivity, consistency, and result.

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